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Are you your partner’s #1 fan? Is your partner yours? 
Are you your partner’s #1 fan? Is your partner yours? 
Are you your partner’s #1 fan? Is your partner yours? 
Are you your partner’s #1 fan? Is your partner yours? 
Have the discussion: how can you and your partner better support each other? Think about ways you can both contribute to making life dreams come true in your relationship.
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How Overcontrolling Behaviors Impact Relationships
How Overcontrolling Behaviors Impact Relationships
How Overcontrolling Behaviors Impact Relationships
How Overcontrolling Behaviors Impact Relationships
Do you consider yourself to be perfectionistic or do others think this of you? Are you an all or nothing thinker? Do you have trouble with procrastination on important/big tasks?
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The Gottman Institute
A new year signals a fresh start—an opportunity to reflect on the past year of your relationship and explore your future together. New Year’s relationship resolutions may be just the spark you need. Good Communication, Resolutions, Healthy Relationships, Reflection, Newyear
New Year’s Relationship Resolutions
A new year signals a fresh start—an opportunity to reflect on the past year of your relationship and explore your future together. New Year’s relationship resolutions may be just the spark you need.
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The Gottman Institute
Cherishing yourself & your relationship
Cherishing yourself & your relationship
Cherishing yourself & your relationship
Cherishing yourself & your relationship
Cherishing yourself & your relationship
Learning how to set goals -and stick to them to achieve them - can be tricky, but it is manageable! When you work on improving, and cherishing yourself, you improve your relationship too.
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The Gottman Institute
How to make and keep new years resolutions for your relationship
How to make and keep new years resolutions for your relationship
How to make and keep new years resolutions for your relationship
How to make and keep new years resolutions for your relationship
How to make and keep new years resolutions for your relationship
For couples, setting goals to improve their relationship may not be the first thing that comes to mind at the turn of the calendar year. But being intentional about improving communication, trust, and satisfaction can yield significant positive change.
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The Gottman Institute
It’s not uncommon for couples to feel overwhelmed or disconnected during the holidays, especially if one or both partners feel triggered by certain events. The added stress can create tension and highlight relationship difficulties. Disconnected, Difficulties, Feeling Overwhelmed, Uncommon, Tension, Highlight
It’s not uncommon for couples to feel overwhelmed or disconnected during the holidays, especially if one or both partners feel triggered by certain events. The added stress can create tension and highlight relationship difficulties.
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The Gottman Institute
Taking time to each day to acknowledge and share your gratitude can shift your mindset & bring you more joy. There are no limitations to what you can be grateful for: a sunny day, loving relationship, hearing your favorite song, and so much more! Grateful, Thankful, Online Publications, Attitude Of Gratitude, Relationships Love, You Changed, Sunny Days
"An Attitude of Gratitude" and the 5:1 Ratio During The Holidays
Taking time to each day to acknowledge and share your gratitude can shift your mindset & bring you more joy. There are no limitations to what you can be grateful for: a sunny day, loving relationship, hearing your favorite song, and so much more!
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The Gottman Institute
Our romantic relationships usually start with a lot of passion and exciting intimacy, but often times that excitement can fade over time as the rigors of life kick in. "Roommate syndrome" is the term used to describe this dynamic in couples where the relationship has become an arrangement and lacks romantic love and affection. Child Abuse Survivor, Trust And Loyalty, Sibling Relationships, Romantic Love, Roommate, Eating Disorder, Professional Development
How to avoid roommate syndrome
Our romantic relationships usually start with a lot of passion and exciting intimacy, but often times that excitement can fade over time as the rigors of life kick in. "Roommate syndrome" is the term used to describe this dynamic in couples where the relationship has become an arrangement and lacks romantic love and affection.
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The Gottman Institute
Rituals are defined as meaningful activities that families create to bring connection and stability to the family dynamic. Rituals hold relationships and family life together and create cohesiveness within family identity. Family Traditions, Holiday Traditions, Trust Friendship, Baby Witch, Relationship Advice, Build Trust
Thanksgiving Rituals of Connection
Rituals are defined as meaningful activities that families create to bring connection and stability to the family dynamic. Rituals hold relationships and family life together and create cohesiveness within family identity.
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The Gottman Institute
Snuggles are important!
With the weather shifting and the holidays coming towards us fast, it's important to remember that snuggles can be a great way to connect with your partner!
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The Gottman Institute
Stress Reducing Conversations
Stress Reducing Conversations
Stress Reducing Conversations
Stress Reducing Conversations
Stress Reducing Conversations
The goal of active listening is to listen (not just hear) to the speaker’s words with empathy and without judgment. Try this active listening exercise and see how it affects the level of emotional attraction you feel for each other.
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The Gottman Institute
Perpetual Problems around Finances
Perpetual Problems around Finances
Perpetual Problems around Finances
Perpetual Problems around Finances
Perpetual Problems around Finances
A good way to approach any perpetual problem is having a conversation where the goal is to listen while finding the deeper meaning behind your partner’s side. Instead of only hearing what’s on the surface try to find the story or dream behind their position. Set aside some time to discuss things where each person gets the time to talk about how they feel.
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The Gottman Institute
The secret to a lasting relationship
Through their research on couples, Drs. Julie & John Gottman learned a lot about friendship and its role in romantic relationships. Here, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman explains the secret of lasting relationships.
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The Gottman Institute
The next time you are sitting next to your partner and are tempted to look at your phone, turn towards your partner instead of a screen and have a conversation. Even if it is just a check in about how your day was, it can have a positive impact on your relationship. Why People, Conversation
Six Reasons Why People Turn to Tech and How to Turn Towards Each Other Instead
The next time you are sitting next to your partner and are tempted to look at your phone, turn towards your partner instead of a screen and have a conversation. Even if it is just a check in about how your day was, it can have a positive impact on your relationship.
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The Gottman Institute
In the realm of relationships, our choices and actions can be driven by two fundamental emotions: love or fear. While fear may seem like a natural response to protect ourselves, operating from a place of love can have a transformative impact on our relationships. By consciously choosing love over fear, we can nurture healthy connections, foster growth, and create a harmonious environment for love to flourish. Choose Love, Love Can, Meaning Of Love, Spritual, Emotional Connection, Misunderstandings
Choose Love Over Fear
In the realm of relationships, our choices and actions can be driven by two fundamental emotions: love or fear. While fear may seem like a natural response to protect ourselves, operating from a place of love can have a transformative impact on our relationships. By consciously choosing love over fear, we can nurture healthy connections, foster growth, and create a harmonious environment for love to flourish.
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The Gottman Institute
"The fear of commitment can show up differently for different people, but at its core, it’s all about being afraid of getting too close, vulnerable, or dependent on someone else. People dealing with this fear often struggle with the idea of long-term commitments like marriage or even just opening up emotionally in a relationship." Fear Of Commitment, Attachment Theory, Couples Therapy, Soul Searching, Leap Of Faith, Happy Relationships, Emotional Support
The fear of commitment
"The fear of commitment can show up differently for different people, but at its core, it’s all about being afraid of getting too close, vulnerable, or dependent on someone else. People dealing with this fear often struggle with the idea of long-term commitments like marriage or even just opening up emotionally in a relationship."
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The Gottman Institute
While trying to manage every detail what happens around you can feel like you're minimizing uncertainty, it can be emotionally and physically exhausting. As Hailey Paige Magee puts it, "Whether we’re 'helping,' 'generous,' 'saving them from themselves,' or 'doing it for our relationships,'" trying to control others instead of yourself just isn't worth the effort. If you or someone you know is in danger, or an abusive situation, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233. Codependency, Mental And Emotional Health, Self Help Books, Resentments, Domestic Violence, I Need You, Breakup, Oct
Control & reactions
While trying to manage every detail what happens around you can feel like you're minimizing uncertainty, it can be emotionally and physically exhausting. As Hailey Paige Magee puts it, "Whether we’re 'helping,' 'generous,' 'saving them from themselves,' or 'doing it for our relationships,'" trying to control others instead of yourself just isn't worth the effort. If you or someone you know is in danger, or an abusive situation, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233.
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The Gottman Institute
Dr. Donald Baucom, a psychology professor at the University of North Carolina, studied marital expectations for a decade. He found that people get what they expect. People with low expectations tend to be in relationships where they are treated poorly, and people with higher expectations tend to be in relationships where they are treated well. High Expectations, Dirty Clothes, Not Good Enough, Kindness, Psychology, Encouragement
The truth about expectations in relationships
Dr. Donald Baucom, a psychology professor at the University of North Carolina, studied marital expectations for a decade. He found that people get what they expect. People with low expectations tend to be in relationships where they are treated poorly, and people with higher expectations tend to be in relationships where they are treated well.
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The Gottman Institute
Becoming overstimulated
For many neurodiverse relationships to thrive, it’s important to focus on understanding the differences in how each partner processes information and how this impacts their ability to understand each other. Honoring and meeting these basic needs for nervous system regulation can play a huge role in developing intimacy and bringing the relationship closer. - Yolanda Renteria, LPC, NCC
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The Gottman Institute
Sometimes when people feel disconnected from their emotions, it's harder to connect with others. It can be a survival response that has developed over time, like having a shield around their feelings to stay safe. And it's also important to understand that having that shield can make it difficult to have strong and happy relationships with others. To make things better, we need to understand why we built that shield in the first place and take actions to change it. Feeling Disconnected, Girl Advice, Feeling Helpless, Body Scanning, Mean People, Logical Thinking
Understanding emotional disconnection
Sometimes when people feel disconnected from their emotions, it's harder to connect with others. It can be a survival response that has developed over time, like having a shield around their feelings to stay safe. And it's also important to understand that having that shield can make it difficult to have strong and happy relationships with others. To make things better, we need to understand why we built that shield in the first place and take actions to change it.
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The Gottman Institute
There could be several reasons why you feel afraid to say “no” to your partner: fear of rejection if you do not comply, you feel like their love and admiration is conditional on your compliance, or you experienced abuse in the past. If you notice that you feel anxious when you say “no” to your partner, it could be something to look at very closely. Codependency Relationships, Unhealthy Relationships, Making Excuses, Leisure Activities, Rejection, Feel Confident
Saying no to your partner
There could be several reasons why you feel afraid to say “no” to your partner: fear of rejection if you do not comply, you feel like their love and admiration is conditional on your compliance, or you experienced abuse in the past. If you notice that you feel anxious when you say “no” to your partner, it could be something to look at very closely.
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The Gottman Institute
Never underestimate the power of making a few small, simple changes within your relationship to develop the skills needed to make your love flourish for many years to come. Read more about improving your relationship on the Gottman Relationship Blog. Relationship Meaning, Perfect Relationship, Perfect Marriage, Shoulder Massage, Acts Of Love, Broken Promises
The perfect relationship
Never underestimate the power of making a few small, simple changes within your relationship to develop the skills needed to make your love flourish for many years to come. Read more about improving your relationship on the Gottman Relationship Blog.
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The Gottman Institute
There are many times in relationships when you and your partner need to have a difficult conversation. Approaching these conversations with the desire to be understood, and willingness to understand where your partner is coming from will help. Subscribers to our Love Notes Newsletter receive helpful tools like one this every month. Relationships Are Hard, How To Improve Relationship, Gottman Method, Individual Therapy, Godly Dating, Difficult Conversations
What is a softened start-up?
There are many times in relationships when you and your partner need to have a difficult conversation. Approaching these conversations with the desire to be understood, and willingness to understand where your partner is coming from will help. Subscribers to our Love Notes Newsletter receive helpful tools like one this every month.
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The Gottman Institute
Being kind and gentle is a decision. Just as we offer a smile and hold the door open for a stranger, we must remember to cultivate this habit in our relationship, no matter how many months or years have passed. If you are in danger, or in an abusive situation, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233. Explain Why, Argument, Compassion, Explained
How to be kind when you're upset
Being kind and gentle is a decision. Just as we offer a smile and hold the door open for a stranger, we must remember to cultivate this habit in our relationship, no matter how many months or years have passed. If you are in danger, or in an abusive situation, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233.
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The Gottman Institute
How are you expressing love today?
You have the power to make a positive difference in someone's life, through even the simplest of gestures. How are you spreading kindness and expressing love to others today?
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The Gottman Institute
Why same-sex relationships thrive
Dr. Gottman's research shows that same-sex relationships thrive because they are built on the same foundations of love, trust, and mutual respect as any other healthy partnership. The study showed the same-sex couples had more open and direct communication than their heterosexual counterparts.
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The Gottman Institute
Beginning conflict conversations with an "I" statement to describe what you feel and what you need can help improve the outcome of the discussion. When you start sentences with “I” instead of “You,” you are less likely to be critical, which can would immediately put your partner on the defensive. This post is not intended to address situations of abuse. If you or someone you know needs support, contact The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233 I Am Statements, Being Good
Relationship recipes: softened start-up
Beginning conflict conversations with an "I" statement to describe what you feel and what you need can help improve the outcome of the discussion. When you start sentences with “I” instead of “You,” you are less likely to be critical, which can would immediately put your partner on the defensive. This post is not intended to address situations of abuse. If you or someone you know needs support, contact The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233
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The Gottman Institute
Love is not one size fits all
Let us celebrate the uniqueness of love and relationships while embracing the principles that foster healthy and meaningful connections. Love is not one size fits all.
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The Gottman Institute
Signs that you might be in a codependent relationship
Healthy, loving relationships thrive on togetherness and support, but what happens when it impedes one partner’s individuality? Learn more about these 4 signs you might be in a co-dependent relationship on the Gottman Blog If you are in danger, or in an abusive situation, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233.
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The Gottman Institute
Grief is a deeply personal and challenging experience that can strain even the strongest relationships. If you are experiencing grief, it is possible to navigate the journey of grief and find healing together. Relationship Books, Strong Relationship, Grief Healing
Grief & healing together
Grief is a deeply personal and challenging experience that can strain even the strongest relationships. If you are experiencing grief, it is possible to navigate the journey of grief and find healing together.
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The Gottman Institute